#97 Part 3: Naming the Inner Landscape
What if the parts of you that once kept you safe are now the very things keeping you stuck?
In Shame Out Loud Ep 97 Part 3, host Lori Clarke sits down with co-host Tammy Valicenti (EMDR specialist and founder of TransformSolution) and guest Carina Ghosh for a raw, soulful roundtable inspired by Lori’s creative writing piece Child and Woman (Episode 95).
At the heart of this episode is a shared metaphor: the forest—the internal place where parts of us go to survive. Where fear lives. Where young selves still wait. Where old rules learned in silence continue to run the show.
This conversation names what so many people feel but rarely say out loud: dissociation, survival patterns, parentification, emotional neglect, shame, the “not enough” story, and the long, embodied return to wholeness. Together, Lori, Tammy, and Carina explore how our bodies carry what our voices could not—and how healing isn’t about comparing wounds, but about telling the truth out loud with people who get it.
You’ll hear about scattered parts, boundaries that finally hold, and a tender, radical truth woven throughout the conversation:
it is a revolutionary act of self-love to say — this ends with me.
Question to sit with as you listen:
Where are you still performing for safety—and what part of you is waiting to return back home to yourself?
Show Notes
Episode 97 Part 3:Naming the Inner Landscape
Brief Episode Summary
What happens when the places inside us that once kept us safe are no longer hidden—but named?
In Episode 97 of Shame Out Loud, Lori Clarke and co-host Tammy Valicenti are joined by roundtable guest Carina Gosch for a deeply reflective conversation about inner worlds, sensitivity, and survival.
Using the metaphor of the forest, this episode explores how parts of the self adapt to chaos, how intuition can sharpen in darkness, and how healing often begins not by escaping what’s inside us but by learning how to be with it. Through stories of moonlight, scattered parts, and an inner cottage of refuge, the conversation invites listeners to consider that what once felt frightening may also hold wisdom, protection, and a path home.
Key Topics Covered
Naming and understanding your inner landscape
The forest as a metaphor for survival and adaptation
Sensitivity and intuition as forms of intelligence
Parentification and emotional self-abandonment
Parts of the self that scatter, hide, or become hyper-aware
Darkness as protection rather than danger
Reclaiming safety without force or urgency
Creating inner refuge and connection over time
Important Quotes & Takeaways
“The forest isn’t something to escape—it’s something to understand.”
“Sensitivity didn’t harm you. It helped you survive.”
“You were never broken. You adapted.”
“The darkness held me until I was ready for the light.”
“Healing doesn’t require leaving yourself behind.”
Takeaway:
Naming your inner world changes your relationship to it. When the forest is understood rather than feared, it becomes a place of reconnection instead of exile.
Resources Mentioned
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
Parts work / Internal Family Systems–informed approaches
Somatic and body-based healing practices
Intuition and inner-child journaling practices
(Note: This episode is reflective and experiential. It is not a substitute for medical or therapeutic care.)
Guest & Host Information
Host: Lori Clarke
Co-Host: Tammy Vallicenti
Roundtable Guest: Carina Gosch
Timestamps for Major Topics
00:00–07:00 — Welcoming Carina & first reflections on Child and Woman
07:00–15:30 — Sensitivity, intuition, and navigating chaos
15:30–23:00 — The forest as a place of protection
23:00–30:00 — Scattered parts and emotional survival
30:00–38:00 — Moonlight, darkness, and feminine safety
38:00–46:00 — Creating inner refuge and the cottage metaphor
46:00–54:00 — Belonging, love, and coming home to self
54:00–1:05:00 — Reconnection, compassion, and closing reflections
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